Uncolonizing Relationships Through Energetic Sovereignty

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Welcome to Devotional Anarchy, a podcast about intimacy, attachment, sexuality, spirituality, self expression and other relational themes from a trauma responsive somatic energetic lens. And with the queer polyamorous twist, of course, I’m Isha Vela trauma, psychologist somatic intimacy Alchemist shadow doula love at our guest, intuitive channel and sovereignty coach. You’re here because you understand that integrating intimacy wounds build safety and trust within your body. And that safety and trust is what allows you to fully own and direct your erotic and creative life force in your relationships and purposeful work. My intention is for the conversations and tools shared in this podcast, to light a fire in your heart and under your magical ass while supporting you on your kinky human journey to owning all of yourself.

Hola Hello, Rompereglas and welcome to Episode Four on colonizing relationships through energetic sovereignty. I’m so excited to get into this topic with you. In fact, this podcast episode is the true reason why I do what I do. First, I want to let you know that the doors to my nine month mastermind are open. I’m calling it the sovereign a meta body intimacy and integrity accelerator. And I know that because you’re listening to this, you know that the depth and quality of intimacy in your relationships is directly related to your capacity to hold complexity and nuance in your nervous system as well as the quality of attunement, you have with yourself, right? What what you are able to hold for yourself, you are able to hold for the person you’re relating with, whether it’s in your love life, or your business life or your family life. And through both structured practices and somatic process, the meta body is designed to do both. It’s building a foundation of safety and trust in your body from which everything in your life can flourish, not just your personal and professional relationships, because it really is the the core work. So it’ll help you see clearly so that you can get out of your own way. Because oftentimes, we were not aware of the ways we sabotage unintentionally through, you know, fear responses that we’re not even aware of. So this is really about the energetics. So I want you to imagine being able to hold exquisite attuned compassion for your emotional process and your human complexity, to consciously choose your truth, love spiritual values without sacrificing your needs and desires. I want you to imagine, to that you can experience previously unimaginable spaciousness for pleasure and play in all of its forms. And being able to be more open to vulnerability with the discernment and boundaries that are necessary. And what I love about the meta body is that you’re going to come away from this having deeply honed your subtle energy awareness. And you’re, you’re able to deepen your intuition as well. But the point, the point of all of it is to come home to safety in your own body when fears and insecurities arise, because they always do in relationships, and especially if you’re in relationships with multiple romantic partners, but you know, even if you aren’t, our relational lives are already complex enough. So you get a as part of the metadata, you get a curriculum, it’s a bi weekly video modules delivered to your inbox, which is, you know, holds the the frameworks and the foundational principles of the experiential work. So and this is really the soul level transformation that a lot of us look for, but we, you know, we get it in pieces, or we get it throughout our lives. And the meta body is designed to really shorten the amount of time and it really is the deep dive moving through, you know, what would take you normally five years to get through, it does it within a nine month period. So it’s six months of collective process, three zoom calls a month, three months of personal integration, which is 390 minute intensive one on ones. And then the there’s the online ongoing support over the nine month over a Facebook group. So get on a 30 minute curiosity call free curiosity call just to kind of discuss what it might be like for you if this is right for you. And you can also if you haven’t worked with me before, you can also get a taste of somatic intimacy Alchemy by booking a 60 minute one on one call. I’m calling these These sessions attune. And they’re discounted $100 through the end of March. So it’s $222 through the end of March. And all the links are available in the show notes. And I really look forward to connecting with you. So, today I speaking of connection, today, I want to connect how energetic sovereignty relates to uncolonized in your relationships. And if you’ve been following me for a while, you know that when I say relationships, I don’t just mean romantic partnerships, I’m talking about your relationships with your children, with your co workers, with your clients, and more importantly, or most importantly, with yourself, that’s always the seed from which we begin, from which we begin any, any relationship. So when thinking about seeds, we’re going to start from the ground, starting from a few assumptions, the first being that you are already multi amorous. So if you take anything away from today’s transmission, it’s the understanding that you are in relationship with everything. You have a relationship with me, everything, everything is relational. So you have a relationship to God, or to the universe, you have a relationship to your business, yes, that is definitely a relationship, you have a relationship to money, or the spirit of money,

you have a relationship to land in place. And this may also translate as a relationship with a particular country or region, whether it’s ancestral or current, you have a relationship with your body. And I just want to note that, you know, the relationship may not be a good one, the relationship might feel like shit, it might be a relationship of neglect and abandonment, but it’s a relationship nonetheless. Right? We’re really looking, we’re naming it as relationship. And then we’re getting into the quality of relationship. And of course, you have a relationship to your thoughts to your energy, even specific emotions. Think about the relationship that you have with rage, for example, that’s a relationship that’s, that usually involves fear and distrust, because that’s the relationship you learned to have with that particular emotional energy. Through your conditioning and socialization. You have a relationship with all parts of yourself, perhaps you have a relationship of judgment towards your neediness, or you have a really welcoming and loving relationship to the part of you that you designate as kind. And then of course, you have relationships to the people in your life, the people near and dear to you, people you don’t know groups of people, etc. So that’s the first step in on colonizing relationship is recognizing that you are in relationship to everything at every moment, and that we’re really talking about, okay, what’s the quality of relationship then. And I also want to stop for a moment and just make a distinction between on colonizing and decolonizing. I use the word on colonizing because for me, decolonizing is is very specifically attached to the indigenous experience. So, you know, decolonizing is really about land and place it is about culture. So I really want to leave that and have that be sort of a sacred, a sacred process in and of itself. And that on colonizing is is really about stripping away in the body, like from a body sense, but also like mentally in all sorts of levels, stripping away what is not you what is not, inherently you. And that’s, you know, that’s a lifelong process. But, you know, here, we’re gonna get into the nitty gritty of it, as it pertains to relationships. And I also want to offer the, the truth around, you know, this idea that we’re in relationship with everything, that is indigenous wisdom, right there. So, you know, I just want to like name where it’s coming from and what, where we are in history is that we’re returning to those to that indigenous wisdom, lots of different types of indigenous wisdom, or indigenous ways, ancient ways. So the other foundational tenet I embrace is the distribution of weight of importance throughout all of your relationships, right? Usually, we put them on a hierarchy we put your relationships with your children, family of origin, romantic partnerships, you put it at the top of the pyramid or the hierarchy, and oftentimes, relationship to land or place is at the bottom. So I really want to I want you to think about out, distributing that weight more evenly to collapse that pyramid. And as I mentioned in the love anarchy episode, which was episode two of the season, the way that we’re socialized, both, you know, just from our biology, and our culture, just the way that we’re raised, you know, we’re we’re taught that our belongingness, our worthiness, and our attachment meet needs are met externally, right it in that all feeds into the hierarchy. So that’s sort of a natural, how things are set up biologically speaking, but they’re also socialized through culture. So on colonizing relationships, flattens that hierarchy and acknowledge that there is deep intimacy healing that can happen in any one of the relationship, any one of those relationships that I mentioned earlier, like relationship to land, that can be deeply healing, obviously, relationship to spirit. And I just want to offer like a little example of, of intimacy, healing that can happen through spirit, I remember being

in my training, and we we had a class on on spirituality, and the way we started the class was to have our grievances with God. And, you know, oftentimes we are, we don’t really allow ourselves to have grievance with God, because we’re like, oh, we can’t be mad at God. But we really allowed ourselves to be mad at God, and I was really pissed. And I was like, Where the fuck? Where are you? Where the fuck were you when I needed you, you know. And so we, we had an out. And so that was a process that I engaged in, in order to improve my relationship with spirit. So that’s, that’s a, that’s an intimacy healing process right there. So let’s get into energetic sovereignty now that that the foundation is set. So for me, energetic sovereignty is having an unwavering connection to Source within yourself. And that doesn’t mean bypassing that means understanding your humanity as part of your divinity. And that includes embracing your shadow, allowing yourself to experience all of your emotions, honoring your boundaries, right, the the yeses, the your passion, your desire, and also your know your limitations, owning your sexual and creative expression, and moving in alignment with your integrity, which for me, is about heart integrity, like moving in alignment with your truth, as love. So this involves a deep, intimate connection to self, like you have to be so attuned to what’s going on inside of you to be able to be energetically sovereign. So from an attachment perspective, I think of this as having a secure attachment to self. And it’s not that you’re not attached to anything else. But it’s that there’s an awareness or there’s an understanding that your relationship with yourself is first, right. So I want to say something about colonization, and take a sip of my tea. If you’re drinking tea with me, as you listen, take a sip with me. So I want to say something about colonization. And this is just from my experiences, as having grown up in Puerto Rico, deeply, deeply colonized, and really understanding colonization from like a deeply intuitive and body place. So colonization, for me, when I think about the body, the soma, the psyche, is about the denial of self, the denial of your own authenticity via external power and control. So I think, think about the imposition of, of colonial rule over people. Right, I think of, of our conditioning and socialization as a rule, rules that get imposed on the body, which is why I thought of drumbeg That’s right. Because we’re by by and colonizing by moving towards sovereignty, we are breaking our attachment to these rules that that are that have been conditioned into our bodies. So when I think about colonization, being about denial of self or self betrayal, I where we go against the self sovereignty for me is about radical acceptance of the self through compassionate permission giving, saying yes to everything. And of course, we’re afraid to say yes to everything. Because we’ve been taught to be afraid of certain aspects of the self. We’re taught to be afraid Have our rage or have our shadowy aspect, but when we say yes to them, they melt, they dissolve, they reveal their wisdom to us.

So just to get into it a little bit of a definition. sovereignty means self governing, being of supreme power or authority. It is about for me, in terms of the human sense uncolonized, uncivilized, wild, primal, right, because the colonized self is a domesticate itself. It’s a, it’s a self, that’s, that’s dimmed where the light has been turned down. So sovereignty is about lighting it the fuck up. Okay. And this sovereignty happens on multiple levels, it happens on an energetic level, reclamation of energies that have been socked away, tucked away hidden. It happens on a physical level, I think of this as the nervous system, but also the food that you put into your body. Right, how you treat your body. It happens on a mental level. Are your thoughts yours? Are your thoughts truly yours? Are they colonized thoughts? happens on an emotional level? Right? What are the stories that you’re telling yourself? And how are they feeding your emotions? That’s what sort of the mental and the emotional combine and sovereignty happens on a spiritual level? Right? Do you feel? Do you feel the divinity within you? And do you live your life from that place from that understanding? Or do you think of God and spirit as being external? So again, this is highly relational. And it’s about energetically bringing forward all aspects of your expression, even the parts that you have learned to have a negative or or aversive relationship with. And the idea of sovereignty, this the want to say the the understanding of sovereignty is that no part of you is wrong, everything is welcome. And so that offers you the opportunity, or the invitation rather to be curious about what’s here. So how do we cultivate this healthy attachment to yourself? What is it involved? What is involved in it? So sovereignty is a process that involves unhooking from that internalized conditioning, whether it’s through personal trauma, or the internalization of collective conditioning, or brainwashing, which can be experienced through right we experiences brainwashing through like harsh self judgment or criticism. We experience feelings of unworthiness, we experience shame, we experience doubt of ourselves. We experience disconnection from sensation in our body, especially if you are exquisitely sensitive as I am. If you’re not in tune with sensation, it’s because you’ve had to maybe disconnect from sensation in order to survive. Maybe that’s something that wasn’t valued in your family, maybe it’s something that people didn’t talk about. We also experienced it through our binary thinking, right? This is good, this is bad. This is right, this is wrong. This is black, this is white, this is all or this is nothing. And we also experienced it through the belief that something or someone outside of us holds the answer. Now it can be even like, Oh, if I had this amount of money, then I would feel okay. Or this coach has the answers, right? No, the answers are within you. And you want to be coached by someone who’s gonna help you go inward and find those answers and give you an offer you the pathway, Mike, offer you some guidance around going within yourself.

So anyway, these experiences that I just shared, like the self criticism, the judgment, all of those experiences, are the echoes of personal and collective trauma that rob you of your inherent sovereignty. And when I say inherent sovereignty, I mean, that you were born energetically speaking, you were born with a full spectrum of your erotic lifeforce. And over the course of being human in an imperfect world, you learn to bring parts of yourself forward the parts that were accepted, prized, rewarded, wanted, praised. And then you leave the other parts of yourself back. You leave parts of yourself back that, you know from my experience, I left parts of myself back that were more like shiny and maybe loud mouth or dramatic. Those were the parts that I wasn’t really able to bring forward when I was little and even even experiences like fear. Like I wasn’t really allowed to feel my fear because I had to be courageous, I had to sort of push through my fear. And part of my work now is really feeling it. So, as I’ve mentioned before, these experiences this bringing parts forward and leaving parts behind, right, this experience of maybe a trip not attrition, but almost like a atrophy or, or cutting off. Those are baked into our early attachment system. And we absorb the, the reality of our environment, through the relationships we have with our caregivers, into our energetic bodies, as though we were inhaling like, scent molecules, right. And that’s because there’s no ego barrier separating us the teabag from the water, which is the environment, right, it’s all sort of like there’s no filters, there’s really no filter. And I talked about this. In the previous episode, and episode three of season two, I talked about how intimacy wounds form and how they affect the energy body in more detail. So you can go back and listen to that. So uncolonized Mind, Body Spirit is about reclaiming that inherent sovereignty, reclaiming your energy, and reclaiming your creative and erotic lifeforce. And again, that’s a lifelong process. And there are tools, there are real tools that I use every day, and that I teach. So, because we learn to attach outward and lose ourselves in the process of getting our belongingness needs met, externally, etc. My understanding of sovereignty is is about attaching to the self in an intimate way. What it looks like is treating your relationship to self as a primary relationship. Healing involves opening up contractions in the body the places where love has not reached its light into or where love is constricted or where love is held back via traumatic hurts. Sovereignty involves reclamation via retrieval of disowned energy, and devotion to energetic, physical slash nervous system, mental, emotional and spiritual systems. And absolutely sovereignty, energetic sovereignty cannot happen without boundaries, right? tuning in, to those intuitive yeses and noes through even physically recognizing your limitations on any given day or in any given moment. Those are all that is all sort of the internal compass that inform your boundaries. So I just want to reiterate, in the process of socialization and trauma, we abandon aspects of our humanity, we relinquish parts of our authenticity, we cast aside essential child parts vital to love, creativity, and sexuality, and to abandon, and this definition is to turn away from your own love. And this is what happens when we get hurt, we turn away from ourselves. And then sovereignty requires or involves a turning towards turning, like owning, embracing, loving, approving, and even re parenting and we want to use sort of more psychological language. Attaching to self means living in aligned, compassionate relationship to the spirit, self, and the earth self, which is your messy humanity. And that involves definitely ego and shadow. So let’s take a drink.

And we’re gonna get into how energetic sovereignty supports conscious relating. So this is where we get into healing relationships or relationships that support an environment of healing, that energetic reclamation of inherent sovereignty. So, you know, just want to say that this is not something that process of coming into sovereignty is not something that you do alone can absolutely do it in relationships, and I highly recommend doing it in relationships, but you have to be in relationships that support those conditions of reclamation. So sovereignty is my internal vibratory version of social justice because it involves inner liberation or inner freedom from oppression. Right? Are you oppressing yourself in your thoughts? Are you oppressing yourself in the ways that you don’t allow yourself to be in your body fully or express yourself fully? Right? This is how we do we do to ourselves what was done to us and Do we do to other people what was done to us? Right? Sometimes we reject other people when we have been rejected, and we reject ourselves, or we reject certain aspects of ourselves. And I believe that the less we oppress ourselves internally, the less we want to oppress other people, right, the more you know, we’re just like, yeah, let you do what you want to do. Like we just allow, when you allow offer allowance to yourself, you will allow other people to be who they are. When you accept yourself, you are more likely to accept other people. The ultimate result of energetic sovereignty is about having the capacity to hold the full size of your personal power, and directed towards meaningful and purposeful work, which is when I when I think about the direction piece, it’s about authorship, or authority over that energy, right, we can direct it in a way that feels aligned and good, aligned to our passions and to what we care about. So again, this is a process this is not a like a, like, Oh, I’m done, I’m sovereign. There’s an ongoing process, I’m always, I know that for myself, I’m always reclaiming new parts of my energy, I’m always uncovering different aspects. And that’s why it’s so fucking exciting. That’s why I’m like in this because it’s like, oh, what else wants to emerge, right. And just want to go back to say, when we don’t feel powerful, and this is important, when we don’t feel powerful. And this happens in subtle ways we seek to gain power externally. There’s, there’s the obvious manipulation of power that we see in leadership. Right, in governmental leadership, let’s say. And there are also subtle manipulations of power that we see in in leadership, we see this sometimes in the coaching industry with the ways you know, products or programs are marketed.

There’s also the subtle control patterns in relationships. And these are really, really subtle, and this is what the meta body really gets into is the one where, like, harder to detect, and they’re absolutely acting out in our partnerships. So the subtle control patterns is where my where my zone is, that’s where I like to hang out. And these subtle control patterns arise only because our intimacy wounds are getting activated in our social nervous system, right? And when these engage the ego, and then it leads to protective behaviors. And I it’s important to say that, because I want you to have compassion for when those parts of rise, like when we are acting out in a control pattern, it’s not because we’re dicks. It’s because we’re afraid. And once you can name that you’re afraid, then you can also get curious. You say, Oh, yeah, I’m feeling fear around such and such. And we’re, the thing is that we’re often unaware of the very subtle ways fear shows up in our systems. I remember when I was working with my intimate with my intimacy teacher, when I was doing intimacy healing with her. She’s an energetic, which really, really talented. And, you know, we were in a session and she was like, Where do you feel your fear? And I was looking at her like, Oh, I’m not afraid. I don’t feel fear right now. And she’s like, What do you feel your fear? She knew she could sense it. She could sense it. I was afraid. And when I really sort of tuned in, I was like, oh, yeah, there it is. It was in my belly, I could feel it, you know. So we’re all we’re often oblivious to fear, unless it’s turned up so high that we’re anxious, right? Where it’s so obvious, we can’t ignore it. And that’s, I think that’s part of the reason why we see so much anxiety is because we’ve been ignoring the fear for so fucking long. And it’s, it’s ramped up to the, to the point where we can’t ignore it anymore. And it’s like, oh, then we feel paralyzed by it. So, again, we know the obvious examples of fear based behaviors or control patterns that that are acted out in, you know, in leadership and things like that. But there’s lots of other little ways of how shadow and intimacy won’t show up in your relationships. Thinking about for example, like, you know, when I think about raising children, for example, there were plenty of times where I just wanted to come in, and just like squash, squash expression, because it was inconvenient to me, right as the as a colonial ruler of the home. It was inconvenient to me. I wanted something I was going to control role that I want, I had power and I want to use it. Right? So those are the those are the ways that shows up perhaps in in the way we raise our children or like you have to do something or no, we’re doing this right now. And, and yeah, you know, sometimes it does involve like, hey, look, we need to get out of the house right now or we need to do something, we need to work as a team. And, and there’s ways to communicate that. And there’s ways to communicate situations like that where you can clean up the energetics with your kids and let them know, yeah, there’s some times where we don’t, you don’t get to do everything you want. And, and sometimes we take turns, right. So really, again, flattening some of the hierarchies but still having giving your children a sense of authority and authorship while you also have yours. That’s a whole negotiation process, I’ll get it to right now. But so that’s, that’s a way that that, you know, subtle control patterns can come into parenting, for example, and it can also come into, I think often about, you know, the people that I work with, and I feel this a lot in myself as well, you know, we often have sort of this rescuer, rescuer dynamic. And often in a rescuing dynamic, we are looking for, we’re often unaware of this, but we’re looking to feel useful. We’re looking to feel needed, we’re looking to not be abandoned. And when we’re looking to rescue someone, we’re looking for people who need help, we’re looking for a victim. And when we’re in a helping place, we feel safe. We feel safe, because we’re needed because we’re we feel valued. Our ego is getting all the accolades, right from ourselves, perhaps, or from the person that we’re helping. But but the shadow is that, you know, we are at some covert, at a covert level seeking to be needed, and wanted to have value to have worth to, to not be left.

Yeah, and we can’t get those needs met, we can’t get the deep needs met of being valued by somebody who was who was so in their victimhood or so needs help, they can’t offer us that in return. So we give, and there’s there’s subtle ways that you know, we seek to get I can, you know, I remember being in one of my classes, we were sort of meeting each other for the first time in my somatic training. And we were just kind of pairing up with people. And I remember standing there with the person and the facilitator was asking, so what’s your agenda, and I was like, looking into this person’s eyes, and I could feel the part of me that just really wanted to connect, like, ooh, like, you’re a new person, I want to get to know you, I could feel my fear. And I could feel from that fear, oh, I want you to like me, I want to be funny. I want to like, you know, make you laugh, because I want you to like me, right? So these are the subtle ways that we like, do shit. Because we want something in return. Because we want to be seen, we want to be met. And it’s being being seen and being met, being valued. Like, those are beautiful things when they happen in relationship. And we also have to see ourselves clearly we have to meet ourselves. And these can, this doesn’t need to happen first with you, and then in relationship, but to be aware of that you can give those things to yourself. So yeah, so we we often have agendas that we’re not aware of. And again, why this happens is because there’s that intimacy, wound activation, there’s the egoic collusion, right, the the thinking brain starts to be like, Okay, this is how we can do it. And, you know, because it’s, there’s a over coupling process there. And then the relational strategies come in to like, oh, yeah, this worked before, this is how I’m going to do it now. You know, I know that for me, like the intimacy wound that’s pretty deep for me is like, I can feel like I have the spidey sense, for when somebody’s attention shifts away from me, when I win a partner, I can feel them like, turning away from me. And boom, I’m activated, my fear is activated. I can sense it, because I’m so attuned to it, right? Because we get sensitized around these hurts. And we keep repeating these patterns, because there are so well grooved into our unconsciousness. And oftentimes, like my experience working with people is that we don’t quite know what they are. We see the pattern we see sort of the behavior playing out, but we don’t really understand from an embodied sense from an energetic sense, how fear is playing into it. And we don’t know how to transform them as a result. So One of the tools that I use in the process of cultivating energetic sovereignty is that compassionate inquiry process, which I call embodied relational presencing. And that helps, that helps you go inward into the activations, it helps you even with the egoic, collusion collusions, when they arise, it helps you bring sort of this, this curiosity to them, this opening to them, this relationship with them, so that they can inform you and talk to you and, and so that you can, you know, behave or act from a place that is aligned with your values. So, sovereignty supports conscious co relating and healing relationships by helping you cultivate safety within the root of your own energy body, so that you don’t have to acquire it externally. It helps you by separating what is intention, like honoring the connection, versus what is ego, for example, being right, so it checks for possible hidden agendas. It helps you be responsible for your activations and triggers, owning your hurt places and removing blame and shame from them. It helps you resource yourself from within. And if you don’t have the resources to, you know, if you don’t have that, if it doesn’t feel like enough, you can resource yourself, in community and with other people doesn’t always have to be with a partner. And that helps you move, energize and integrate any emotions that need to be processed. And my favorite part is that it helps you bring activations it helps you bring hurts that helps you bring truth to your partner or partners with self responsibility and integrity of heart. All in all, it cleans up the straight energetics in relationships that can often build up as resentment and toxic residue.

And we all know what it feels like when you when there’s resentfulness in relationship like those really build up and it becomes so heavy that you don’t even know where those results resentments came from, or how to resolve them. So that’s where I want to end today. I want to end really briefly with six features of uncolonized relationships. And I got this from Gwendolyn Bedouin, who’s an indigenous trans person. I just thought it was so lovely the way that she put this together. And it really, it’s just like, encompasses all of what I share today. So this is a six features of decolonizing relationships. The first is learn to recognize love, love does not fix you. It does not heal your past and this is really talking about in particular romantic partnerships. They don’t resolve your insecurities or lead you to violate your boundaries. It is not obsessive, fearful or controlling this is trauma. Instead, love affirms you it makes room and it’s easy to lean into. Love exists in all relationships. Number two, learn to practice self care and what I call self devotion, self compassion, self affirmation and self nourishment, learning to really see yourself clearly to offer yourself grace and forgiveness. Number three, you are your own soulmate. You and your partner are not the same. This is not about a measurement. It’s not about transaction or ownership. The truth is that no one is going to save you your needs are yours, you can express them and get support from others. For you to meet yourself. You can resource externally but it’s really up to you to meet your own needs and advocate for them. Instead, people in relationships stand on their own two feet and they choose each other every day. And yourself you choose yourself every day and the other partner as well. Number four practice intimacy and presence. Learn to be with yourself intimately so that you can practice intimacy with others. This includes the parts of you that are harder to love, the fearful parts, the shamed parts, your job is to nurture the child within. Number five is learning to stand in accountability. Focus on your growth and healing. recognize what’s yours and what’s other people’s Hello boundaries. Apologize when you act out of fear and defense and forgive yourself. Allow it to be messy. Allow it to be imperfect, embrace learning instead of trying to get it right according to some white supremacist standard. And finally, number six embrace a multiple relationship model. Consider your relationship with Earth Spirit, family, self friendships, lovers. As all equally meaningful and valuable places that support your healing Hmm, this was so nourishing to share with you and I hope that you received this transmission that it was pinging in your body. Again, I welcome you to share your reaction send me an email DM me, I love to hear from you. And I will see you on the next episode. Bye don’t beg us. Thank you for listening to today’s episode. Remember to hit the subscribe button to get notified of new episodes dropping on the new and full moons of each month. And if you haven’t already, leave us a five star review on iTunes to make sure that everyone who needs this transmission receives it. Until the next episode I’m sending you fierce fierce love.